I feel this so much! Love my husband dearly but damn when he clears his throat its so hard 🤣 thank you for bringing visibility to the challenges so many of us are
Omg I felt that with my dad too whenever I would stay with him. Why is it men have the throat thing? I’ve literally never heard a woman have that problem…
I really like that you are saying men need to be educated. I also like the idea of pointing them in the right direction (send them my way 😀). If women have to explain themselves it only adds to the emotional labor. Men need to have an active role in this transition. Education can stop them from relying on old skills, like ‘fixing things’. Their partner isn’t broken. No fixing required. It’s a big lesson the men I talk to say they had to learn.
Sadly I arrived to this knowledge too late; not communicating how I was feeling and struggling in peri enabled my husband to make the decision to separate permanently after 23 years together. Communication is always a two-way street, but trying to fight it out alone was certainly the opposite of a solution...
This is wonderful, Ellen. The mix of hormones, mental load, and finally seeing old patterns clearly makes the anger make a lot of sense. I really appreciate how practical and compassionate this is, without minimizing what women are actually feeling.
I feel this so much! Love my husband dearly but damn when he clears his throat its so hard 🤣 thank you for bringing visibility to the challenges so many of us are
facing!
Omg I felt that with my dad too whenever I would stay with him. Why is it men have the throat thing? I’ve literally never heard a woman have that problem…
Same 🤣🤣 my poor husband!
Yessss
I really like that you are saying men need to be educated. I also like the idea of pointing them in the right direction (send them my way 😀). If women have to explain themselves it only adds to the emotional labor. Men need to have an active role in this transition. Education can stop them from relying on old skills, like ‘fixing things’. Their partner isn’t broken. No fixing required. It’s a big lesson the men I talk to say they had to learn.
I will send them your way. I love this: “Their partner isn’t broken. No fixing required.” I’m going to include you in the newsletter this weekend!
Oh, that’s awesome. Thank you.
Sadly I arrived to this knowledge too late; not communicating how I was feeling and struggling in peri enabled my husband to make the decision to separate permanently after 23 years together. Communication is always a two-way street, but trying to fight it out alone was certainly the opposite of a solution...
I’m so sorry about this Jo-Ann. x
This is wonderful, Ellen. The mix of hormones, mental load, and finally seeing old patterns clearly makes the anger make a lot of sense. I really appreciate how practical and compassionate this is, without minimizing what women are actually feeling.
I felt that way too. So gentle. We need moe of this.